Recently, a Cup of Jo reader emailed us with a question…

“My 40th birthday is this June, and I’m hosting a party in a garden,” wrote Kate. “My anxiety has really ramped up over the past two years, but I’m working through things in therapy and hoping that I’m entering a fresh chapter. I want to feel chic but fun, and I’m ready to paaaaaartyyyyyyy. What’s a special occasion dress that’s not frilly or frumpy? I’m okay with a splurge.”

Happy (almost) birthday, Kate! What a fun question, and I’m excited that you’re throwing yourself a party. (I threw my own birthday party last year, and it was one of my all-time favorite nights.) Here are a few dresses that might work beautifully…

1. Pink is gorgeous for spring, so how about a striped dress or this cotton number? I also love this linen one, and what beautiful magenta silk.

2. Red always makes a statement. I loooove this cheesecloth dress, which would feel cool and breezy all night (and would be great for summer trips, too). This linen midi, at a lower price point, is also cute. Or go for great details: these straps are so romantic, and how gorgeous is this back?

3. Channel a flower yourself with this highly rated maxi (with pockets!) or a very pretty mini. Also, my friend has this Sea floral skirt, which was a big splurge but gets a million compliments every time she leaves the house. “Even my 20-year-old boy neighbor was like, ‘I really like your skirt,’” she laughed.

4. Finally, polka dots are a big trend right now, although I’ve always loved them. This sundress is lovely, this midi has a cool square neck, and this dress isn’t technically polka dot but it’s a VIBE.

Thoughts? Which would you choose? Or would you recommend a different look? I also like these chic shoes. xoxo

P.S. More reader questions, and 12 readers share their favorite birthday celebrations.