“A long time ago, you mentioned you’d never shaved or waxed your bikini line,” wrote a reader named Emma. “Could you elaborate on why? I have always wondered!” Well, I’m happy to share…

My answer is really simple: I have sensitive skin, and I’m a wuss, haha. I don’t want to go into a waxing place and get my hair ripped out; it sounds so painful, omg. Plus, I feel fine having hair there, and my feeling is that if I’m going to bed with someone, I want us both to feel so excited and warm and happy and close that we’re fine with whatever the exact hair situation is on either of our bodies. One caveat: I don’t have a lot of hair, and I think my answer might be different if I had more growing outside my swimsuit area.

Also, when I was getting back onto the dating scene, my sister recommended this bikini trimmer. I tried it and liked it, and now I use it whenever I’m in the mood — probably every couple months — to have less hair, without needing to fully shave or wax. It’s completely painless and kind of fun to play around with.

Thoughts? So curious to hear what you do and how you feel about it! Every body is different, and people have all sorts of preferences and experiences. As with all body/sex/parenting/relationships/life questions, “Good for her, not for me.” xoxo

P.S. Twist: I like the word “moist”, and did you have sex on your wedding night? Also, five ways to talk to kids about consent, and why I regularly talk about periods with my sons.

(Photos from Oddobody.)