When I first got separated, I would drop my kids off at their dad’s apartment every Tuesday evening and wave cheerfully (“have fun!”) — but as soon as the building door closed behind them, I’d feel my bottom lip quiver. (I treasure my solo time now, but those early days were tough.)

My friends Mo and Nathan lived half a block from us, so on those nights, I would often beeline to their apartment. They’d be juggling dinner prep and homework with their four kids, but they would always, without fail, greet me with huge smiles and pull up another chair to their dining table. Their home was such a soft landing place, and my eyes still prick with tears when I think about that everyday kindness.

Cut to this past December. My boys were traveling with their dad, so I was spending Christmas Eve solo. I had planned a quiet night at home (HBO and grilled cheese), but as the sun set, those old wobbly feelings came flooding back.

“Hey, could I ever swing by?” I texted Mo, trying to sound casual. “Or are you having quiet family time? No worries either way!”

Without a second thought, Mo insisted I come over, so I walked to their house, played with their kids, ate too many sugar cookies, watched some magic tricks, and took a family portrait for them. Before heading home, happy and rosy-cheeked, I thanked Mo and Nathan, and he looked at me and replied, seriously, “Come anytime, and come every time.”

“Come anytime, and come every time.” My heart! How beautiful and open is that? How reassuring that you’re wanted? What a beautiful and generous statement of friendship.

Mo and Nathan

When they came to our house for brunch this spring, I snapped this photo of them and, later, I framed it as a gift — which, after all they’ve done for me, feels a little like The Lanyard. 🙂

So! During these tough times, I’d love to hear: What kind things have people said or done for you? What have you loved doing for others? I’d be thrilled to hear.

P.S. Wise words, and what’s a nice compliment you’ve received?